There's a huge amount to be said about the black marriage meme going around, but I'm going to try and keep it simple. Why? Because I quit blogging to spend more time with my family. Here's what I want to stress. Marriage is boring and you know it. The question is whether or not you are willing to sacrifice to go that route. Now I want to slap around the people who don't.
Blacks looking for solutions in politics to fundamental problems with ghetto communities only prove they have no faith (or experience) in Family.
The less family you have, the more institutions you need. This is a universal constant.
Look to gays, libertines, socialists, communists, Afrocentrics for your examples. Programs, politics and institutions mean more to them because they have fewer and weaker social supports than families. The same, by the way, goes for eloping couples who cut off their parents.
We are a society of individual rights, but there are great costs to be highly individual. I don't believe, quite frankly, that the majority of Americans are up to the task - that's why the majority of us are middle class. If we were all JLo or Henry Kissinger or Jacques Cousteau, then we could all have opinions and personalities of merit. We wouldn't expect such talents to settle into the stabilizing and often phlegmatic moderation of family life. But most of us are not, and most of us need it.
This is why so many leftists try so desparately to portray themselves as 'creative' - when about all they can do is parade around naked or talk themselves into alternative universes. They're just like most of the 60s 'rebels', just peddling shock value and constantly running away from and afoul of simple middle American, middle class values.
Now let's talk about black culture for a minute. What passes for black popular culture needs a diaper change. It could be summed up in four words 'The Flavor of Love'. There is really nothing special about the dysfunction of Flava Flav. He's a Playa. But because he's ugly, most people see right through him. But the romance with the idea is the same. Put somebody good looking in his place, say Erika Badu, and you have the same deal. I'm having a hard time engineering what the socialization of young blacks is like these days - How does it differ significantly from the Playa track? I'm saying so in the context of what the black marriage deficit strongly suggests, namely that a substantial proportion of black singles would rather socialize with niggas and bitches, than with other ethnics who are more marriage-minded. Check me if I'm wrong and point me to the nearest black speed dating club.
My experience online is that there is a huge surfeit of "whats wrong with black men, what's wrong with black women" arguments. These are directly parallel to the deep furrows in the brows over the future and degraded status of hiphop. So many black singles are deep in that limbo - holding out for a hero or a shero and all too often winding up with zero, or making single parent lemonade.
This is all about love. What will you sacrifice for love?
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